Can you love but not like your child?

Can you love but not like your child?

Love is an Action, Not a Feeling. Think of love as an action rather than a feeling. I’ve found that most parents do love their children, even if they don’t always like their behavior, and even if they don’t feel as if they like their child at that moment.

Is it normal to not love my child?

While it’s perfectly normal to find your child annoying occasionally, or dislike aspects of him or her, not liking them long term can usually be traced back to a reason, or sometimes several. There might have been a rupture in the bonding process.

What if you love one child more than the other?

What parents need to understand is that this does not equate to loving more. It is potentially liking more. And as long as kids all feel loved and are not feeling slighted or feel like there is a “golden child” of the family, there is no problem with liking one child more than the others.

Why do I sometimes not like my child?

If you look closely, you may realize that disliking your child is more about you than them—because it has to do with your reaction to their behavior. Sometimes, as parents, we are triggered by memories of our own childhood, causing feelings of inadequacy, fear, or anxiety. We then project those feelings onto our kids.

Do mothers love their first child more?

A research has put to rest all this confusion and shown how parents favour one child over the other. According to a study published by the Journal of Marriage and Family, 75 per cent of mothers report feeling closer to the eldest child, her first born.

Why do I resent my child?

Some parents have children to meet their own needs for love Another reason parents may feel resentful towards their children, according to Direnfeld, is that some people have children in order to experience the love that they felt that they were entitled to growing up, but which they didn’t receive.

What do you do when you don’t love your child?

What to Do When You Dislike Your Child

  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings.
  2. Identify the Cause of Your Feelings.
  3. Manage Your Expectations.
  4. Get to Know Your Child Better.
  5. Stay positive.
  6. Commit to Not Criticizing.
  7. When There’s a Personality Clash with Your Child.
  8. Conclusion.

Is having a second child harder?

Age gap aside, the reality is — there will always be some inconvenient obstacle that makes having a second child difficult: a promotion at work, potty training a toddler, and overall exhaustion. The timing will never be perfect, but if you want to do it you’ll find a way to make it work.

What to do when you feel like you hate your child?